So, I'm actively trying to date again and it tends to overwhelm me. Under every new leaf I turn over I can see the potential of what might be. But, it so often leads to nowhere that I get disheartened and retreat to solitude again.
I'm always afraid I'll say to much and end up not saying enough.
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It's time to pick yourself back up and start writing again. I just plugged you over in my neck of the woods and I'm anxious to read more.
Hope you're feeling better, btw.
Hey there, I hope you feel better this week...
Yeah, as riftgirl mentioned, she plugged you, and it's something I'm very happy she did because I had been thinking a bit about admirers and chasers and how it could relate to my being transamorous as a tgirl and all that jazz for a while (this tied in a whole "what does it mean to date cis peeps when you're nonop" kinda thing I've had floating in my mind)...
I kind of "grew up" learning that chasers were eww! and that anyone who would date a trans woman (especially if she still had a penis) was suspect. I absorbed it for a bit - with the problem being that I'm kind of meh on bottom surgery...
That was until two things kind of happened
1 - The younger of my two brothers, my sole ally at home when I came out a few years ago and when I transitioned this year, "came out" to me as a passive admirer
2 - A friend recounted some of her experiences with chasers, a few of whom turned out to actually be cool guys
So, yeah, it kinda helped me realize that not all chasers were creepy wankers. End result was me actually having one nighters and a one month summer relationship with a guy who likes tgirls. And a lot of thoughts because of the realization that suspecting everyone interested in me of being a creepy wanker would make my dating life suck really bad (then I realized I was far from the only nonop/doubting girl who had absorbed that kind of message)...
And so I really liked reading your stuff from the other side, as I feel this is a dialogue that is needed within the trans community and with chasers (yeah, I'm an idealist nerd). But then I guess there might be a bit of different dynamic between a wanker dude who proclaims he is TEH STR8ZOR with his mouth on your cock and a transamorous person who will openly admit to having explored around the gender spectrum...
Lol, I write too much.
Agreed. And join us on our blogs...you're always welcome at my site, for one.
I came ovre right after I read riftgirl's plug because I'm really curious about guys who date gals like me.
It is good to hear about this side of things. Feel free to share your thoughts in our little blog. And yeah, I have found that guys who have dated around the spectrum make the most comfortable partners.
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